“If you shout at your wife, You can be accused of Domestic violence”, but “if your wife shouts at you, there’s nothing you pretty much do”. “You can be accused of domestic violence if your family circumstances are such that she needs to work, and you force her to work” By seeing this, many may feel offended. Many may feel it as illogical or Politically incorrect. Yes, we are living in a society where everybody is really concerned about the crime against women. But still, we should address our men, their problems. At least on this International Men’s Day (IMD).
As per the statistics, Suicide kills more men under 50 than anything else. We all believe that justice is the right of every individual, regardless of their gender. So what denies a man’s right to live. What drives a person to suicidal crisis point? We can find the answers from our society itself. Just look at your neighborhood, you will find at least one victim of marriage. A Martyr of Marriage!
Suppose a woman is having an extramarital affair. When the husband or a family figure it out, the only thing they can do is file a divorce. Even though being the culprit, if she accused the family of Dowry and Domestic violence, she will have all the laws by her side. Such cases are very common in our courts. Divorce rates are touching higher numbers. Even if the wife is the culprit, its men and his family are pushed to the wrong side.
If we look deep into our neighborhood we can see wives creating a ruckus, when a man visits her mother or family. You can see men, who even cut off all ties from his parents or family. Many are being tormented, abused and humiliated for the mere fact that he was not able to own as much as his wife wanted him to. Being a woman, does give her all the right or power to ruin a family and a man?
Major threat that our men are facing is our laws. When we speak about laws, we must address IPC 498 A. The law that’s been most abused in the history of Indian jurisprudence. IPC 498 A says that:-
Whoever being the husband or the relative of the husband of a woman, subjects her to cruelty shall be punished with imprisonment for a term, which may extend to three years and shall also be liable to a fine.
Here “cruelty” refers to any wilful conduct which is of such a nature as is likely to drive the woman to commit suicide or to cause grave injury or danger to life, limb or health (whether mental or physical) of the woman. It may also refer to harassment of the woman where such harassment is with a view to coercing her or any person related to her to meet any unlawful demands for any property or valuable security or is on account of failure by her or any person related to her to meet such demand. In India, there has been a huge number of cases related to this law. There are even cases where two and four-year-old children are being accused of domestic violence. But the number of people who are eventually found guilty under this law is a barely minimum.
498 A is a cognizable and non-bailable offense. But rather than treating it as a shield, many disgruntled wives are using it as a weapon. This law was made for the protection of women. But what they are actually doing is misusing it. Really an injustice to the women also. Even though there were many misuses, nothing has been really done about this law. If you are accused, you are asked to either pay up to settle the case or we have to keep on fighting for years and years. You just lose your time, sometimes your life. No one is concerned.
Rape is a heinous crime. But if somebody is falsely accused of rape, it’s an equal pain. What happens when you are accused of something you’ve not done? Will the Court return his dignity? If you are an actual victim of dowry or rape, it’s painful. But the acquisition of harassing somebody for rape or dowry is equally painful. Many such sexual allegations are still there in our courts. Even though it’s not true, the people have to go behind such cases. Sometimes it may last till many years. There are many who even sacrificed their career because of such allegations. Laws are granted for them. Boys, even if they are sexually harassed, no one is interested, not even judiciary.
People being accused of rape because their relationship has turned sour. A whopping percentage of rape cases in India are false. If a girl willingly eloped with her boyfriend, and when she comes back, her parents file a rape here. There were instances where Consensual relations are treated as rape. Egos or fights can even lead to file a rape. Number of Cases reporting is increasing year after year, but only a few among them are genuine. The world will never hear the problems those accused men face. The media is usually concerned with the former part, but not the truth.
Domestic Violence act should be gender neutral. He or she, whoever is guilty should be punished, not the innocent ones. Gender Neutral laws should be formed and jail terms should be implemented for false cases. He or She, right to live is the same!